As you’re more than likely aware, today is International Women’s day 2018. If you’d have asked me 10 years ago what this means to me I would probably have just shrugged it off and not really given it a second thought. My attitude over the last five or so years has changed drastically, even more so because I have a daughter who I want nothing but the best for. I’m using today as an opportunity to write an open letter to her.
First of all, lets unpack the word Feminist shall we? I’m sure you’ve heard me and your Dad use it many times around you – because we are both feminists. That’s right, men can be feminists too! The exact definition of the word feminism is
” The advocacy of women’s rights on the ground of the equality of the sexes”
so basically that means we just want everyone to be equal and to share the same rights – it doesn’t mean that I’m going to go and burn my bra or that we hate men – it simply means we want fair treatment for everyone.
Now that that’s done, I want to talk about what I want for you in life. Quite simply put, I want you to be happy, I want you to have the freedom of choice and I want you to follow your own path without fear.
I don’t want you to get bogged down with what society expects of you, or what you think society is expecting of you – I can see little glimmers of that already peeking through, for example how you don’t like to admit that you enjoy playing cars with your brother – Lottie that’s totally cool! You’re a child and you should enjoy playing with any kind of toy, plus loads of grown up women love cars!
You will always have narrow minded folk who don’t think that women/girls should be able to do X,Y or Z – and they my dear, are full of sh…rubbish. As you’ve told me many times, girls can do anything that boys can do – please never forget that! Even when you’re a teenager feeling like the world is out to get you, and it can be a little bit daunting to stay authentic to yourself – me and your Dad will always be on your side, cheering you on.
Every day I try my hardest to build your self confidence up, I want you to step out into the big wide world knowing that you are enough. I need you to know that you have a choice in every aspect of your life and you need to be confident in those choices (except when it comes to wanting chocolate for dinner and to stay up late on a school night – I’m afraid that one is still a no)
I need you to know that you’re not bossy, you’re assertive. You’re not a tomboy, you’re active. You’re not just a pretty little girl, more importantly you’re an incredibly intelligent, kind and loyal person.
Never let anyone change you, you are good enough. Your voice matters. You deserve to be heard and I’ll never ever stop telling you that.
All my love,
P.S – I would like to quickly acknowledge that I’ve been incredibly AWOL since well before Christmas, I could sit here and bore you with the details but the gist of it is that I was super busy during December for obvious reasons and then once we got into the New Year I really started to struggle with my mental health – again, I won’t go into the details of that one but we’re now 3 months into the year and I’m finally feeling well again. I’ve got a lot of content planned and I’m really excited to get back into the swing of blogging.